When your husband is a service member, you’d know how emotional pre-deployment can get. Basically, pre-deployment is a whole emotional cycle in itself. Perhaps the worst part about it is not having a choice. The family has no choice but to endure this emotional cycle and just hope for the best.
Typically, military families are bound by the following emotional states during pre-deployment:
- Lack of trust
- Lack of intimacy for husband and wife
- Denial of what’s to come
- Expectations of loss
For the deployed, there’s usually two main emotions that come into the picture. First, there’s the feeling of anticipated loneliness and separation anxiety. On the other hand, there’s the excitement or anxiety of being in the service with a whole new life in other countries.
To deal with this, we have the oldest trick in the book, and that is to live it out with the entire family as normal as possible. When your husband gets deployed, you may not be able to adjust to new, albeit temporary family conditions, immediately. So while your husband is around, you’ll want to spend each day with the entire family as normal as possible because you won’t be able to do this in the succeeding months.
Going through pre-deployment will always be hard but know that you’re never alone. To ease the loneliness and despair, it’s always a good idea to call up some family members and close friends and let their company alleviate the separation blues.