When you’re new to pregnancy and your husband is called for deployment, you really need to prepare yourself emotionally. You’re going to be dealing with all these hormones, so the loneliness can so easily turn into severe depression and anxiety. Here are tips to help you deal with this situation:
Get a friend or family member to stay with you
You really don’t have to spend the entire duration of your pregnancy alone. Reach out to family members and close friends and ask some of them to accompany you in this trying time. Cooking for someone is always better than sulking alone with the dishes from last week still in the kitchen sink.
Find a fun thing to do and turn it into a hobby
Loneliness is even more heightened if you’re bored out of your wits. It’s easier when you keep yourself busy at work, but when you’re pregnant, you don’t really have that option. As an alternative, it’s a good idea to look for a hobby. Whether it’s gardening, cooking, or doing arts and crafts, you’ll find yourself enjoying your maternity leave and pregnancy more.
Going through a part of your 9-month long pregnancy alone can be extremely difficult, even more if it’s because of your husband’s deployment. Sure, you’re going to rake in a ton of spousal benefits, such as housing, employment, food, and health insurance; but the real price to pay here is facing most of your married life physically alone and of course, the underlying fear of losing your husband in battle. These tips will help you turn this situation around in no time.
It’s tough being away from your wife and kids–let alone, experiencing loneliness with limited means to communicate with them during deployment. Even if you’ve managed to thoroughly discuss deployment, talk things through and set a few rules and strategies to cope with the separation easier, you never really know what kind of conditions and limitations you will get to experience once you’re finally deployed. Here are things to consider:
Limited Communication Provisions
During deployment, there are very limited means of communication, especially when you want to keep in touch with your loved ones in America–but bear in mind that limited is still better than none. Some areas and duty stations will have internet access, which is why some service men choose to bring their own personal laptops to take advantage of this provision. If you have internet access, communication will be a breeze. You just have to be careful, though, because otherwise social media can seriously compromise your security
Difficulty in Keeping Schedules
Setting a specific time for communicating with your family may or may not be a good idea. When you’re on deployment, you don’t really get much say in your activities. While there may be provisions for personal time, you’ll never know when a crisis will arise.
The key to maintaining a healthy relationship is communication. Since it is loads more difficult to the military families, the trick is to just make the most out of it. Forego negativity, and just talk to each other with as much love as you can give, even for just a limited time.